About The Author

Lily Ellis Rhodes is the creator of Blind Spots - a comprehensive card deck and guidebook designed to help people recognize relationship patterns, identify red flags, and break cycles that keep them stuck. Lily's work is born not from theory alone, but from lived experience.

She created Blind Spots because it's the resource she desperately needed during her own journey - and couldn't find. Drawing on years of research into attachment theory, trauma psychology, and relationship dynamics, Lily translates complex psychological concepts into accessible, actionable guidance.

Her approach balances compassion with honesty: she validates the pain while providing the tools to move through it. She doesn't sugarcoat, she doesn't shame, and she doesn't offer toxic positivity. Instead, she offers what she describes as "the real talk you need, delivered with the kindness you deserve."

Blind Spots addresses the full spectrum of relationship challenges: from understanding how childhood shapes adult attachment styles, to recognizing manipulation tactics like gaslighting and love-bombing, to learning practical skills like setting boundaries, self-soothing, and knowing when to repair versus when to walk away.

The deck's three-part structure mirrors the healing journey itself: understanding your patterns, recognizing unhealthy dynamics in others, and choosing differently going forward.

Lily's mission is simple but profound: to give people the language, clarity, and tools to break patterns that no longer serve them. She believes that recognition is the first step to freedom - and that everyone deserves relationships where they don't have to abandon themselves to be loved.

When she's not creating resources for healing, Lily is wake surfing, hiking or spending time with her two dogs. She lives in Colorado and is passionate about making psychological education accessible to those who need it.

Blind Spots is her first published work, but it represents years of personal healing, extensive research, and a deep commitment to helping others find their way out of painful patterns and into lives defined by clarity, boundaries, and authentic love.

Connect with Lily on Instagram: @lilyellisrhodes